A Few Thoughts On Wil Wheaton’s Radio Free Burrito, Episode 45

Just finished the 45th episode of Wil Wheaton’s Radio Free Burrito. I adore his wit and share many of the things that tickle his whimsy.

In this episode he talks a bit about getting a gig from an audition. He’s rather pleased with himself as this has not been the most successful vessel for booking his work. It’s quite understandable, really, that you meet success where you’ve met nothing but frustration. That feeling of validation is quite invigorating.

While talking about that, though, he mentions the times he’s thought about quitting these. Not quitting acting, but these types of auditions. For me, the key thing: he’s successful getting work via, what I’d call “networking”. The undertone: that would be “quitting”.

I’d argue that, no, it’s not. Acting, and acting gigs, are the goal. He has success there! He’s acting, and paying the bills. Everything else is gravy. There’s nothing wrong with quitting unsuccessful tactics while working towards your dream. Quite the opposite.

Some times, quitting is essential. 

One way to consider this: the ol’ 80/20 rule. 20% of what most people do generates 80% of the results. If one is meeting success doing “it” one way, and not in another, focus on where you’re meeting success.

It’s not only “ok” to quit what’s not working, I’d argue that there’s an imperative. 

Focus on results, not the process. So what if someone else gets all their work “this way”? Focus on what works for you. It might be valuable to explore how you can do things differently, and use that to grow. And, as Wil points out, sometimes the exercises that don’t generate the gigs have other value. For him, many times it’s getting in front of key people; building that network.

Results, my friends, are what should drive us.

Keep up the good work, my friends!

 

I CAN = Innovate, Collaborate, Achieve and Network

This is a title for a training program which was emailed to me. I love this acronym! A great way to drive home keep components of effectiveness in today’s business climate, especially that of real estate. However, the connected world impacts us all.

Experience “I CAN”

Innovate, Collaborate, Achieve and Network

I recommend you watch “A Strong Mind” on YouTube

This video features Ashima Shiraishi, an amazing young rock climber out of New York. It’s really exciting to see people so young grab hold of a dream, making it happen. Of course, supportive parents help immeasurably. Her dad, who gets screen time, looks like someone I’d enjoying having coffee with. Which is about as high a compliment as I have.

What do you think?

Thoughts on “That Dragon, Cancer 2016” 

That Dragon Cancer, a game changer (please forgive my pun). At least it expands my idea of what video games are, and what they can be.

Games are immersion, bringing you deeper into a narrative than any story or film can bring you. Elements of poetry, art, motion interplay to bring you deeper than you ever could’ve gone .

They won the “Games With Impact” at this year’s “The Game Awards“. Which tells me the gaming industry recognizes the importance and power of such games. I’m pondering what the intersection with VR will bring about. The future holds amazing promise. 

Thoughts on Casey Neistat’s Vietnam Notebook

I’ve been enjoying Casey’s work for sometime now. It’s really a 2016 discovery; one I’m happy I made. I get ideas of things to film, someday, that mythical someday when I have plenty of free time. 

Moleskine junky that I am, I really love what he did with his notebook. Cutting out/adding in tickets, maps, key details, blah blah. Things I wish I’d done with my trip to Yellowstone Grand Tetons this summer. 

I think it’d be fun to craft some videos like this, too. My son is going deep into videography. He really wants to collaborate, and I really want to embrace that. 

Lastly, Casey makes note about nothing drives home how fast time passes than watching kids grow up. And I’m really feeling that this fall. We’re preparing for highschool, talking college, cars,and well, being grown-up. I’m so damn glad I made the time to be here, to be part of his childhood. So many men I know regret missing this, and feel pain as they try to connect with their grown children. Trying to find a place in these lives that were filled in their absence. 

There’s nothing I’m more proud of than my simple integration with my son’s life. He’s a great kid, and an amazing young man. I’m very happy. 

Talent vs Non-Talent

talent-vs-non-talent

Came across this image the other day. It makes me think: “am I being the best I can be?”

Am I pushing myself? Do I seek challenges to rise to?

Well, often I do. However, it’s not always easy and, sometimes, it’s easy to slide back into the non-talent mindset, waiting for someone else to come save me.

When I catch that, though, it annoys me and drives me to snap out and move forward.

What about you? Where do you fit in this puzzle of life?

 

Thoughts upon this evening 

​It was lovely day, by my standards, at least. Yeah, a bit wet in the morning, but the afternoon turned out nice. Well, not pouring down. 

Got a walk in after lunch. Still haven’t made my 10,000 steps, though. Ah, my sedentary life! My fitbit drives me forward to a more active life. Helping me clear my mind, enabling me to focus better, to be more present, not all lost, in my head, dealing with some random element or another. 

Spent the evening talking with some friends, and the daughter of one of them. It was quite a charming hour. Reminded me of the “plan” all those many years ago to have a second child, ostensibly a daughter. 

I was struck, as I considered time, how intensely short it is from diapers to adulthood. Talking with this girl, it hits me that she’s existed only a tiny fraction of my life. And yet she’s clever, witty, bright and engaging. Full of ideas, knowledge and life. 

This is why I work so hard to be in the “now” of life. It’s so fleeting. This girl will soon be in middle school, driving, off to college. As will my son. It’s fleeting. I must savor this moment, as it will waft away, watched or not. Once gone, it’s dead. 

I see this as the ultimate manifestation of love. To be here, be aware of the now, fully engaged in this moment, with these people. Now. It’s all we got. 

Thought of the day

What’s done is done. Lesson learned, move forward.

I have a tendency to obsess over things where I was less than perfect. It’s rather destructive.

I’m learning to simply say “I can’t undo the past” and move along. Learning…not there yet.

Going forward. Feels like more of a challenge than it should be. I guess that means I have work to do.

Your Monday Positive Message

learn from mistakes, don't deny them
learn from mistakes, don't deny them
learn from mistakes, don’t deny them

This is an easy trap to fall into. For me, at least, when I deny my mistakes, they haunt my dreams, pushing me towards facing and accepting them.

It’s sometimes painful and almost always challenging. But, always, it’s worth it.

It’s already a busy week in Seattle area real estate, this morning flew by. Check out my real estate blogging here.

The glory of special snowflakes

I’ve heard the idea that “we’re all special snowflakes” used derisively. I take issue with that, yet also get the concern. 

Acknowledging uniqueness often gets mistaken for privilege. That we’re supposed to bend rules, expect exceptions. Because of our wonderful uniqueness. I see something quite different. 

EVERYONE is unique and wonderful made. There’s no privilege to our exceptional gifts and talents. Yet there is joy in finding that way of contributing. By becoming the best we can be, we make the world around us better. Maybe not transforming the earth, all of humanity, maybe just a small, local piece.

In this world of social commoditization, where mediocrity is the safe place, pushing ourselves, and everyone nearby, towards joyously maximizing their unique giftedness, with a humble, thankful heart, is powerful. It’s what will save our rage filled, egocentric society from itself.