Category: Personal Reflections
Lessons learned about life; pearls of wisdom I’ve gleaned through pain, failure and honest reflection
What’s Your Self-Love Language?

I’ve heard about our language of self love recently. Fortuitously I stumbled upon this graphic that, in my estimation, explains the different types well.
One thing I’ve been focusing on lately: deliberately doing things that give me energy. Part of Stephen Covey’s “Sharpening Your Saw”. These deliberate actions that help you get better, recharge you, ensure you have the energy to accomplish your goals.
I want my life filed with vigor and joy. Seeking out what fuels my soul is critical. I don’t want to simply be drifting from exhausted night to exhausted morning. This list helps guide me regarding those actions.
Do you find it helpful? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
Celebrate the Legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King

What are you doing to honor the legacy of Dr. King?
Spinning Russian Dancers
Delightful little video. However, if i tried spinning around like this I’d hurl.
work bitch – britney spears pic.twitter.com/9EFXIJBK6d
— soviet soldiers dancing (@communistbops) January 15, 2020
A Bit Of Monday Motivation For You
What will you do to make the rest of your life better?
A Monday Thought For You
Today is a gift worthy of thoughtful consideration. What will you do with it?
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My Thoughts On Seth Godin’s “I’m Sorry Takes Guts”
I greatly appreciate the mind of Seth Godin. Here’s what I read from him today:
“I’m sorry” takes guts
I recently saw two men arguing about who got to use the urinal next.
As a result, neither got what he wanted, and neither could honestly say that his day got better.
The need to win every interaction, the inability to apologize, the short-term over the long-term–this isn’t a sign of strength, it’s a symptom of immaturity and weakness that almost always leads to suboptimal results.
If apologizing engages the network and makes it more likely that we can stay in sync, it pays for itself many times over.
For years, so much of what passes for debate in our culture isn’t, well, debate. So often it’s simply shouting past each other. How many social media posts are titled “My political person just pwned yours”. We don’t value thoughtful discourse, the exchange of ideas, and the basic notion of respect. Right now, we’re about “winning”. And even the illusion of winning gives us a sense of satisfaction. This will not move us forward.
We will never work together, fully, as a society with this model. As long as we value this our divisions will remain. And whatever potential we have will remain unfulfilled.
Streaming Music On YouTube
I’ve been exploring music on YouTube for years. I’ve found the YouTube Music feature pretty lackluster, but that’s probably mostly due to my eclectic musical tastes and interests.
Lately, I’ve been obsessing about a couple musical things. First, the Hang Drum. Imagine a steel drum that’s much more portable. I find them rather ethereal and lovely. I particularly like the video below. The music is delightful, and the imagery stunning. My favorite combo on the platform. Here’s a playlist I’ve started, and will add to as I go forward.
Another recent musical obsession: these long playing live streams. I’ve been bopping in and out of the one below for months…maybe years.
Design Matters Podcast Featuring Derren Brown
I love to listen to podcasts. As I try to go for a walk every evening, that’s one of my favorite times to listen. One of my favorites podcasts is Debbie Millman’s Design Matters. This week’s edition features mentalist, hypnotist, and what I’m going to label “anthropological psychologist” Derren Brown.
I was unfamiliar with his work until this evening. And when, during the introduction, they described his performance work, I disconnected some. Which really helped me actually listen. Most often, I’m feeling compelled to capture every detail. But mental magic/hypnosis? Yeah…and I was pulled in.
Listening to his description of what’s happening in the minds of the audience spoke to my old fascination with psychology. And then I was able to see the connection to all the things I love. Communications is psychology. The mind is the key component for this inter-human facilitation of information transfer. Even my haiku reflect that. I love the challenge of communicating an idea with a few words as possible. The stripping down to the essential.
Also, I appreciated the notions of suggestibility and how it plays out in multiple human contexts. And reminders of how malleable memory is.
So, with all that, I highly recommend you take an hour and listen. It was very enlightening.
Quote of the Day: October 4, 2019

Someone, somewhere, won’t like you no matter what you do. If you’re the nicest person ever, someone will despise you for being nice.
Therefore, be true to yourself.